Constructive feedback is effective when you get the guts of telling someone (could be your colleague, spouse or team leader) the absolute truth about a wrong trait or conduct. Most people frown when it comes to this and they keep noticing issues going rogue and they opt for silence. This place is really a psychological burden on the individual who is reserving the issues. Actually, most individuals in organizations stay silent until the offending party goes too far. Then they get out of control. As an organization key player, you need to stay away from myths that keep most people from being honest with their colleagues who display offensive behavior.
“The other party will be offended”
There are people who never like to offend anyone in life. Though it is a good mindset but when it comes to effective feedback, being honest makes a big difference. While maintaining peace is an option, it does not produce the positive change you would like to see. On the contrary, most people will treasure and appreciate constructive feedback when given in private.
“I might be portrayed as a stubborn or provocative person”
In our interactions with different people who struggle with giving, the common statement they make is, “What if the other party thinks that I am a stubborn or provocative person on the team.” Such a mindset will limit you from communicating your heart. Instead, consider yourself as an open and honest individual.
“The other party will take it so personal”
Though it is clear that disagreement is healthy, most people tend to shun conflicts. However, thinking that you may be hated because of giving constructive feedback creates a mental blockage to change and open truth. You need to be free and open to any kind of reaction. Most importantly give constructive feedback the right way.
“Everyone has weaknesses, including myself’’
It is a fact that no one is perfect under the sun, but there is room for self-improvement. This is why you need to openly give and also warmly receive constructive feedback. Remember to help others improve as you also improve yourself. Giving and receiving feedback is an art that can be learned. Do read more about it and Practice, Practice, Practice!